Rachael-Alexander

A powerful statement but what does this actually mean?

As children, we are taught how to think by significant others in our life. These significant others can be our parents, extended family, adoptive caregivers, or even the social system. 

Whoever they are, research shows that we are programmed by our elders to make very similar life choices as those who raised us and within the society we live in.

Even though, we may make similar choices, rarely do we take the time to ask ourselves if these choices will make us happy. 

We just assume they will. 

However, sometimes we do know we want to make choices that may be different from our family and the society we live in but are scared to do so. 

We are silently encouraged to ‘fit in’ and be the same as those around us, to follow the same social rules as those around us but sadly this ‘fitting in’ can cause us to feel unhappy – as though something is missing in our life. 

When we feel as though something is missing in our life, we sometimes turn to external stimulants to make living more manageable. 

These external stimulants can include alcohol, drugs, prescription drugs, and sugary food, in fact, anything which numbs our emotional pain. 

In reality, the use of these stimulants is simply our sensitive nature trying to find a way to survive on this planet.  

The origin of our emotional pain is linked to how we were treated by those who were present in our childhood. Because of this treatment (programming), we make life choices that hinder us, rather than help us thrive. 

It is a fact that our mental health is affected by these life choices and sometimes with increased awareness, we can regret the choices we have made but feel unable to reverse these decisions or see a way out of our unhappy situation. The ultimate escape is suicide. 

However, if we have the courage to explore our thinking, we can see we are simply a product of our upbringing and programming, and not flawed in any way, shape, or form. We learn we are lovable at our core.

It is understandable to not want to explore the way we have been raised as it can be painful to realize we may have behaved unconsciously in the past.

However, to embark on this spiritual quest is one of the most liberating acts of freedom that any human can make. And when we take responsibility to change our programming, we can live our life from a place of passion, meaning, and purpose, spending our days doing what we want to do, rather than what our programming has dictated.

The online courses I offer help you to think about your life and the choices you can make to improve your happiness. The strategies shared help you to increase your self-awareness meaning you can take action to live a more inspiring life where you have time for the things you want to do and love the people you want to love.

It takes courage to say, ‘I think my life is not working for me’ and takes even more courage to access support in helping you make the changes you would like to make.

My goal in life is simple; to help you believe you do matter, you are important, and you have a right to be happy. 

My online courses help you to do this, and I wish you every success in your journey of having the courage to be yourself.